What you need to know when you're worrying about them being with someone else, is that a person can’t change another person. Getting a high from something and someone else to avoid the true source of their pain. The breakup (which let me assure you - needed to happen if this was the case) was merely a signpost to what’s truly going on and getting with someone else quicker than me to a new episode of Real Housewives of Beverly Hills is their attempt at ignoring the signpost and running in the other direction. All of these things reveal much more going on beneath the surface.
Their ex has displayed narcissistic tendencies, completely blindsided them, consistently treated them badly or acted out of character.
Still in love with my ex full#
Most of the people I speak who are going through a breakup have experienced a relationship that was full of drama. Mainly though, because they can’t deal with the root cause of what’s going on with themselves emotionally. Partly because they can’t deal with the breakup and to fill the void of not having you in their life any more. Some people will look to date and date and date to numb the overwhelming emotion they’re feeling about the breakup. Sometimes it can be a toxic cocktail of a few things. Much of the time, it’s other people that we look to as the solution to heartbreak. For others it’s social media, Netflix or TV.
Oftentimes, we look for the most immediate thing that will dull the pain of heartache.
If you’ve been through a breakup, regardless of who you’re ex is dating, sleeping with or actually in a relationship with now, the very nature of the breakup happening means that something pretty substantial wasn’t right between the two of you. I’m here to tell you again that 99% of the time, this simply isn’t the case at all. I’ve written about this before but I really don’t think it can be said enough. I receive many emails and speak to so many people I work with who are so petrified that when their ex moves on, that they will be forgotten, that this other person they're with will FINALLY be the one to change them and get the BEST of them.
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